Edit: Relationship was almost a year. 7 months of it were long-distance
A year ago, I studied abroad and did the one thing I said I wouldn’t and met and fell in love with a guy. The funny thing is, we continued to date after we returned to our respective countries. The funniest thing was that it actually worked! He’s Australian and I’m American. He came to visit me in February and we had a blast. I knew that he could be someone I spent my life with when he came out of the airport and I had tears of joy in my eyes upon seeing him. I’m not an emotional person at all. But, that’s how I knew.
Then, the pandemic hit. I had plans to travel to Australia but obviously those went out the window. Regardless, we stilled called everyday and we were still happy. I always looked forward to his calls but was still living a strong independent life here in the States. Then, Australia pulled an interesting move and decided to bar it’s borders to all travel until at least 2021. Dang. So, we called and we talked about that. We’re both engineers and, because of this, very logically minded people. Thus, we concluded that it was infeasible to not physically see someone for over a year and we should end things between us.
We did end things. I continued to live my life and he continued to live his. I was sad but I started going on dates again, wrapping up school, etc. All through it though, I continued to think about him. We didn’t talk for a while but we’ve started texting every other day again and calling and catching up. We have a very deep friendship and the long-distance has allowed us to preserve that well.
It’s been 4 months and I can’t get him out of my head. So much so, I’ve debated applying for a travel exemption to Australia. This was a relationship that ended out of force rather than desire and it deeply saddens me. Truly I’ve never been so well matched in a relationship and my friends/family agree. I’m not sure what to do. Do I talk with him about it? Accept the cards dealt to me? Will this pass? Pull a full 180 and just show up in Australia (if I can)? I know I’m young and have a great life ahead of me. I’m just truly wondering if this is a path I should’ve taken in the scheme of things. We’re both not dating anyone as well and haven’t since the breakup.
Thanks for the advice 🙂
My relationship ended because Australia closed their borders for a least a year if not more. I am continuing to live my life but am deeply saddened by this breakup and can’t get him out of my head even though it has been months. Do I talk to him about it (we’re friends)? Do I try to go to Australia? Do I let it pass?