Please dont flame me on this and feel free to tell me this is all completely off the wall but my GF of 5 years has come to the realization that she wants children. I do not. Which in and of itself is fine and I can understand so I hold no ill feelings towards her and understand if she has to move on.
We both agree our relationship is amazing and love each other in our lives and if it was not for this we would grow old together most definitely.
Since life throws us all curve balls, we chuckled at the possibility that several years down the line it would be our luck that one (or both) of us arent even able to have children due to some sort of medical issue (since it is so common) and we ended an amazing relationship in the past over it.
She did mention that if it came to that and it turned out she was not able to have children naturally down the line (with me or new partner), she could live with that because that is the hand that she was dealt, but at least the attempt / option was there. Which is certainly a respectable answer. She states (and i have no reason to not believe her) that the same could be said for me, if I was medically unable to have them.
So this got me thinking, what if I am not able to have them as males do have a significant contribution to infertility issues.
Is it….weird to get a semen analysis so you can just…know what you are dealing with? Female infertility tests can be quite invasive but for men it looks fairly straightforward.
I just feel like a urologist would tell me to get the hell out of his office if i say i want a SA just for funsies, so to speak, but the data to me would certainly be beneficial.
On that note, is it wrong to want this sort of info to make relationship decisions?
I feel bad for even posing this question as many couples take these tests for the opposite reasons and it is part of the reason I did not post it in the infertility subreddits where they would know more about the process (and maybe the general attitude towards just getting a test with no current fertility problems).
TL;DR Is it wrong to get a male fertility test to know one way or the other whether the male can even have children before ending a relationship over children (or not).