Thanks in advance for your time.
Background: I’m 25F born and raised in the Midwest. I met my husband in high school. Started dating our senior year, high school sweethearts. We dated through college mostly and then got married the year after graduating college, we were 22 at that time. I said no to several jobs to move with him where he was starting graduate school. At the time it worked. The jobs I said no to weren’t dream jobs and I could find something similar in the area he was. So I moved to his new city, found a job, we got married the following year. After 4 years he has come to the end of his Seminary studies and is going to be placed as a pastor at a church. I’m not ready for that lifestyle, I thought after this time I’d be more ready but now I don’t know if I’ll ever be ready. He and I share many interests and great communication, but a lot of our upbringing was different and therefore values of his are based in Christianity whereas mine are not. It guides everything he does and for me I’m not so sure. It’s not that I’m not a Christian, but I’m not on the level he is, does that make sense?
Anyways since getting some experience my career has really picked up. I landed an amazing role at a large company and doubled my salary and this week I was promoted to lead of my team. And recently I’ve been receiving quite a few opportunities to interview at larger corporations, I feel like my career is starting to pick up and great things lie ahead. However to stay with my husband that means giving that up to an extent. His career would be in the driving seat and at a certain point there’s expectations for me to assume the wife-mother role. Again I’m not totally against this but in this path I feel like it’s not our choice but a predefined path.
Things haven’t been well between my husband and I for several months and we haven’t been living together. I’m wondering if this is where it ends? I’m so sad thinking of that, we’ve shared so much of our lives so far together and it might seem silly but we’ve gotten to do some amazing travel together and those memories mean a lot to me. So I’m looking for any life experience or perspective on this. I hate the idea of divorce and I don’t take it lightly, but it might allow both of us to grow better in the future. We didn’t have these external factors affecting our relationship before because we were so young, but now as we’re growing into adults our lives aren’t as cohesive. Thanks for any thoughts.
*tl;dr;* 25 year old, how do I decide between high potential career or relationship with history?