(17F) think that my boyfriend(17M) may be controlling? We’ve been dating for around 9 months but there’s a number of things that just strike me as wierd. Things that he says and does that makes me think this way.
First of anytime we watch a movie/show/or hang out with some other guy, I cant laugh at his jokes or sometimes my boyfriend asks “you think he’s good looking?” (If we’re watching something for instance) and if I even say he’s decent looking he’ll say then why don’t you go fuck him (not in a rude way per se, but off)
Something else I mentioned that I wanted to dye my hair pink at some point and he told me not to do it. It wasn’t like a strict no you absolutely can’t do that, but he still said no.
He always makes “jokes” about how im cheating on him or how I might have side dudes. First and foremost I would never cheat on him, I love him so much, but these jokes get to the point were they piss me off. I’ve told him before how I dont like these “jokes” he makes but he still makes them anyways.
I had a friend(FTM17) who I dated for a short period of time (cant really remember how long) but we both decided it wasn’t working so we broke up and still remained friends. He told me to break off the friendship when I told him about it, he said that he may still have feelings for me and he doesn’t want me talking to him. I dont know if thats the right call or anything becuase I’ve never had to deal with something like that.
He’s rude to my family members behind their backs, when we get into fight its always my fault or im not supposed to be mad becuase it was a joke. He keeps asking for me to move in with him to a different state when we turn 18.
I dont write this to make him seem like the bad guy, I love him with all of my heart, he’s insecure I know that we’ve talked about it, but should I bring this stuff up to him and talk about it with him? I just feel isolated in this pandemic and he’s my main source of human interaction. Should I try and talk to him about it?
TL;DR: I think my boyfriend is controlling, has brought up family problems, friendship problems, stress, and anxiety, and I dont know if I should talk to him about whats going on. I dont want to end it becuase I love him so much, but I dont know what to do.