PLEASE DONT HATE ME BY SAYING I SHOULDN’T BE DATING A DIVORCED MAN IF I CANT HANDLE HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS EX. UNDERSTAND MY SIDE AS WELL. I JUST NEED HELP IN FIXING THIS.
So they are amazing parents who co-parent and to be able to do that they share a friendly relationship. But every time she doesn’t like text him properly or even the time he had to bail her out of jail.. he kinda asked her what was it that her current partner can do that he couldn’t.
Now I’m all for him co-parenting and being in touch with her because he travels for work so she has the kids but I want a relationship with him where he’s not in constant touch with her over texts or calls. It feels like she wants the best of both the worlds. She wants to be with her current partner and then also stay in constant touch with him. They are friends on Facebook and her pictures are plastered all over his Facebook.
Like I can tell he gets really sad when he talks about her. Now it hurts me that he is so sad thinking about all the hurt she put him through – she took the house, all that came with the house and he is left with his clothes only. And he keeps telling me how he has moved on from her but when they are in constant touch – it doesn’t seem like it. It seems like she is always lingering there in the background.
I love him and I think he loves me too because he has introduced me to his kids and his mom and grandparents.
I’ve never been in this situation before so I feel bad. But then if I’m wrong then I want to fix myself and my thinking.
TL;DR – Boyfriend seems to be very close to his ex wife who is kinda using him whenever she gets in trouble and I may be feeling insecure. I want support or guidance.