This is a bit ridiculous I’ll admit but I’m insecure. I’m incredibly confident in myself and I know that I’m a beautiful woman and I have a lot to offer in a relationship. To preface, I was in a long term relationship about 2 years ago and this is the first person I have dated since. My previous relationship ended with my boyfriend at the time cheating on me with a friend who I was told not to worry about. Fast forward to now, my boyfriend is amazing. We’re a new couple going on about 2 months now and he told me recently that he loved me. He is everything I am looking for, treats me well, there’s mutual respect, understanding of time needed together, for self, and friends. I am very close with my friends both male and female and I do talk about them a lot with him however, when he mentions a specific female friend of his I get insecure. She is his type physically to a tee and I haven’t met her yet. I’m sure it’s simply a matter of me being nervous because of how my last relationship ended but for some reason I can’t get over their friendship. I’m leaving to visit family next week and he made plans with her to come over to his house(another female friend will be there as well I’ve been told) while I’m away and I’m a bit uncomfortable with it but don’t want to be the person who keeps him from his friends. I guess what I need advice for is how do I come to terms with the fact that this woman(who has a boyfriend) is just a friend to him and I have nothing to worry about? Are there signs that I should be looking out for in case it’s not platonic, and how do I tone down the insecurity on my part in the mean time?
Nothing is suspicious. He just has mentioned her a lot and I am insecure because she is his type and I don’t want to be insecure about a friendship that is more than likely platonic.