The pandemic has taken a toll on both of us. I know for me, I’m just kind of keeping my head above water mentally. I’ve been WFH for months and feel extremely isolated. I’m angry at the world and how no one around us is taking the pandemic seriously. I worry about my wife who works in healthcare (married 2 years). So that gives you an idea of my mental state.
We have not had much sex during this time. I don’t think about it much either. If I have any kind of libido it’s after my wife has fallen asleep so I just take care of things myself. Sometimes she initiates by walking into the room where I’m doing something, asking if I want to have sex, and then just shrugging and walking away if I say I’m not really feeling it.
It’s not my wife’s fault I don’t think. Her looks haven’t changed. She wears pajamas whenever she’s at home since we aren’t going anywhere, maybe a little scruffier than normal, but I don’t think that’s the main reason. But I have started seeing her like a best friend or family member. I don’t have the same kind of romantic pull to her. When we try the at home quarantine dates they feel half-hearted on both sides. We watch funny movies (the only movies she’ll watch), stuff ourselves with food, and fall asleep.
She brought up randomly that we aren’t having much sex the other day. I said it was pandemic stress. She said we’re all stressed about the pandemic but other people are still having sex. I could tell she was frustrated and later we both apologized for snapping at each other. But I don’t know how to solve this dynamic between us
**tl;dr**: No sex drive towards wife due to pandemic, she’s not happy.