My sister in law is extremely rude and careless and i have no clue on how to handle this situation.
So, my boyfriend and I are currently living with his parents due to COVID. We’re only living with them till our rental house is done with all the renovations and it’s taking quite a bit longer than we hoped for.
Our living situation is far from ideal, we sleep and have all our belongings in his childhood bedroom, it’s extremely crowded and we’re pretty much living out of boxes since there’s no room to put anything.
When it comes to my In law’s they’re amazing people and i have absolutely no problem with either of them, i just have a problem with my sister in law (21). Her existence gives me a migraine. I’m going to highlight a few of her golden moments throughout the last few months we’ve been living here.
– Gave her abusive ex our address and lied to the entire family about cutting off contact with him (he’s extremely dangerous) and i’ve been on edge ever since i found this out.
-On her 21st birthday threw a complete bitch fit over the fact her disabled cousin was going to come and was extremely irritated she’d have to call the restaurant and just TELL them so they can make accommodations on their end.
-When i was talking to my boyfriend about college plans i brought up the fact i’ve always wanted to be apart of a sorority and was telling him how i maybe wanted to try to go to a rush next year and randomly she asked me “with what money?” in a very snarky way.
-Is up till 3am every night playing video games which wouldn’t be a problem at all except for the fact she’s screaming at the top of her lungs and waking me up every 30 minutes, i already can’t sleep due to CPTSD and her screaming makes everything so much worse.
-She always screams. I cant go to the bathroom without hearing every single word of her conversations. oh and she also sob screams at 4am sometimes because of her abusive boyfriend and that triggers me and i end up waking up to a panic attack.
-I asked her if she wasn’t busy if she would be able to pick me up from work, i worded it in a way that made sure she knew she definitely didn’t have to if she was doing anything but i’d really appreciate it if she could. She agreed and said it was “no problem at all!”
She was almost an hour late picking me up and she was at the smoothie king across the street the whole time. I was texting her throughout the hour and she would say “i’m on my way” (never leaving smoothie king) and overall just being inconsiderate the entire time.
-I smoke weed due to my CPTSD and i asked her to not tell her parents and i’d want to tell them myself, i didn’t know how they felt about weed at first and i just felt it i should’ve been the one to tell them.
The day after i tell her that she goes to her parents and tells them. They have no problem with it but it’s the fact i specifically asked her not to because i wanted to tell them.
-I never leave my room anymore because she always finds a way to be disrespectful. I left my room for the first time in a week and while i was talking to my boyfriend, mid sentence she interrupts me and completely ignores me to ask my boyfriend a question.
-(this one doesn’t effect me directly but it’s a very honorable mention) Basically her parents pay/do everything for her, they want their kids to have privileges they didn’t get to have but my SIL is taking complete advantage of it. She’s been jobless for a year and has done nothing, it’s a fucking struggle to get her to do ANYTHING. While i was downstairs waiting for my boyfriend to come home i heard her scream sobbing about how
One of her friends is calling her out on being a brat and she’s so upset!! because she totally isn’t one!! She lied to her friend saying she “paid for her car”
yet her dad did. She’s literally manipulating everyone in her life to see things from her POV if that makes sense? she’s literally fucking insane.
– she literally lies to her mom about taking care of the animals. i wake up every morning at 8am because the dogs (she’s supposed to take care of) start whining and i let them outside and feed them etc.
Her mom asked her the other day “what time do you take the dogs out in the morning?” she literally froze. I responded to her mom and said “i let them out every morning at around 8 and i keep an eye on them throughout the day” AND SHE LOOKED SHOCKED TO SAY THE LEAST.
-On the occasion she DOES let the dogs out, she leaves them outside all day no matter the weather. I’ve came home multiple times to them soaking wet because she refuses to get off her ass.
Overall shes extremely unpleasant and i do everything i can to just stay out of her way and stay cordial but at this point it’s ridiculous. She acts like an immature brat and i can’t stand it anymore. I have dark circles under my eyes from the lack of sleep.
Am i overreacting? I feel like i’m just going insane. Maybe her behavior is normal and i’m the crazy bitch, who knows. All i know is if i treated her the way she treats me the family would hate me.
And how do i deal with this? I feel trapped.