My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now. In the beginning of our relationship I noticed that he followed a lot of girls who had fan only pages or patreons while having lots of posts that were constantly reported for violating Instagrams rules. I’m not objecting to sex workers or women confidently showing their bodies but it makes me extremely uncomfortable at times. I’ve had a conversation with him twice about how this makes me feel. Both times he said he’s understood but is given me reasons such as when we have dry spells he needs some sort of motivation. The reason it hurts so much is because he constantly reassures me that I am everything he wants physically but yet I constantly see him looking at these different girls that are obviously extremely beautiful and attractive in all aspects. I don’t really know how to get through to him at this point because we’ve had this conversation multiple times. I actually talked to one of his close friends about it and she said that he’s always had a wandering eye but never acted on anything. His ex-wife was extremely jealous and always seemed to monitor his phone and what girls he was talking to which makes me wonder if she had the same issues that never went away. On top of all of that I recently had knee surgery and I’m constantly on the couch which can really affect your self-confidence. So to see him looking at all these beautiful women makes me feel even worse about my physical appearance. My ex-husband used to watch porn on a regular basis and also share nudes with all of his guy friends and I told him that I don’t mind him looking at that stuff but I think the marriage was just dead at that point for me to really care. Now obviously it’s affecting me in the opposite way. I don’t know if I’m overreacting or my feelings are genuine. If this is part of his personality, should I just accept it? I have my own flaws where sometimes I get down and I’m not as physical as he would like me to be (he wants to be physically twice a day ideally). Any advice or any experiences would be greatly appreciated. I’ve just been wondering how to even bring this up since I’ve talked about it multiple times..
TLDR; BF looks at sex workers accounts often. I told him it makes me insecure and uncomfortable. He says he understands but continues to look.