We’ve been dating for 4 months now. After multiple conversations, it’s clear that even though we like each other, we are not compatible. We don’t have endless conversations or enjoy amazing moments together. We like each other, but that isn’t going to be enough for this relationship to work.
The past few weeks, it’s always been me initiating our hang outs. Despite living 10 minutes away from each other, we see each other about once a week. He doesn’t initiate conversations over text and is always tired on our phone calls. He doesn’t have me as a priority and doesn’t put in the effort to spend time with me. He was the one who pointed out the incompatibility first, and once he did, I see it more and more.
We talked last night, and he sounded like he was done with the relationship. I brought out how he’s been distant and not putting in effort lately, and that’s when he admitted that it was because he’s been having doubts about us. He said he still likes me and cares about me, but that isn’t enough to see us long term. I agree.
We haven’t broken up yet, but I’m almost positive that we will tonight. I’m still want him as my bf, but I know that he wants to move on to someone else. It’s wrong for me to hold him back from that because I know he can be happier with someone else.
I know our relationship is going to end, but Would it be a bad idea to ask if we could stay together until the end of the year. I still want to be with him for a little while longer, and I want to be beside him to watch Christmas lights and winter activities. This is kind of shallow, but I really want him for one more month. Basically asking for an expiration date on our relationship.
I’m not asking for another month to change his mind or to try and make us work out. I’m asking for another month to enjoy each other’s company for a little longer before going our own separate ways. Is this too much to ask? Should I bring this up, or should I just accept that he is over our relationship and try to move on.
TLDR: we are incompatible in our relationship and he is about to break it off. Should I ask for 1 more month so that we can spend winter together?