Sorry I’ve posted this in two other subs but I’m going nuts.
Good afternoon everyone. I’m a 22F who has been living with my 23M boyfriend for 3 months now…
I love my boyfriend very much, but we butt heads often due to me being Bipolar/having BPD, and my boyfriend has asperger’s. His mom moved away around the time I moved in, and it’s been total chaos. It’s like he can’t live without her. Even though they lived in separate apartments in our building, she cooked all his meals, took him to do his laundry, and all around mommys him hard.
Now I feel like he has left it up to me to take up the “mom” role. Always asking what to do when it comes to minor decisions, refusing to do anything for himself medically, and not doing any housework.
Yes he cooks maybe once a week if I’m lucky. It feels like I’m in this relationship alone, and as if I’m raising my own boyfriend. He was not like this at the beginning of the relationship at all. Taking care of himself and whatnot, now he goes without taking care of his hair/beard for months, and has put on about 60 pounds since we started dating.
I’m going insane. I feel trapped in my own home, and have been in a depressive episode for nearly a month, as I am currently off my prescriptions. I’m pretty functional without them but some days are rougher than others. He knows I am unable to get out of bed to clean, etc, but he does not make an effort to try and help me.
Him and I at this point have had a conversation about what’s been on our minds every night for about 2 months. I’m exhausted, I love my boyfriend, he’s a sweet, caring, and handsome man. Please give me advice, I don’t want to leave him.
TL;DR Boyfriend (22) does not help me (22f) with anything. I’m depressed and it feels likes I’m drowning.