Hi there, female 21 yo. So I’ve only been dating my boyfriend (21 M) for about 2 months, but I’ve gotten to get to know many of his friend group at this point. My friend group and his have kind of merged now and we tend to hang out all together. Recently, our group was all hanging out. and I would say 95% of the time he was hanging out with me and being there with me. And there was some down time and he went over to his close girl friend to have their own conversation. Which in itself isn’t a big deal. But whenever they talk to each other, they seem like their laughing, having a good time, and I would say that their friendship language is kind of banter-y. She has had a serious boyfriend for their entire friendship (around 3 years and planning on getting married eventually) and they were introduced to each other through her boyfriend. My boyfriend and this girl are kind of touchy, in a playful way, but in the same way he is with his other close friends in general. He is more of a soft-boy kind of guy. I kind of think that’s how he acts with all of his close friends in general, but it just bothers me because she’s a girl. I don’t know how to communicate with him about how this makes me uncomfortable at times without coming across as a jealous girlfriend. I also don’t know if I’m overblowing this, because honestly this girl friend has supported us coming together from the very beginning and I honestly think that she is a pivotal component of us being together. Also, she seems to like me a lot as a person and “approves” me as a good match for him.
TLDR: new boyfriend has close girlfriend of two years and I feel uncomfortable sometimes with their interactions and I’m unsure of what to do. She has a serious long term boyfriend though.